Doctor, Who?

I've had three types of Healthcare Professionals in my life; 
Negative reinforcement
Positive reinforcement
No reinforcement.

Those who were negative reinforcement basically told me that I either take this pill or do this thing or I will die. While I understand their motivation, negative reinforcement has never really served me well. As a matter of fact, it's one of the reasons why I have PTSD today. From that first Doctor who diagnosed my wolff-parkinson-white cell that basically told me I had the heart of a 40 year old and would not live very long. But I'm not sure if that was because he either was trying to give me some negative reinforcement, or just didn't care. The ramifications of those words to me when I was 19 affected my entire life.

Those who gave me positive reinforcement seem to help me the most. They're the doctors who said you know if you take this pill or do this thing you may actually start feeling better and that's our goal. They also we're the ones who gave me long-term goals to meet and hopefully succeed. Those who said that if you lose the weight and keep doing what you're doing and taking the meds, we should see some positive results. These are the ones that work best for me.

And then there's no reinforcement. These are the Health Care Professionals you go to and just kind of do their own thing. They're the ones that, through their actions, seem like they really just don't care. Or maybe they do care, but they just have so many people they have to see they basically just want to make sure you're still breathing and move on. And that might not be exactly true but that's how it's reflected on their service and the little time that we spend with them.

So whether you're getting negative, positive, or no reinforcement, you should take all their advice with an open mind and a grain of salt. Maybe negative reinforcement works for somebody, just not for me. And maybe sometimes positive reinforcement isn't that effective for those that need stronger motivation. The problem is that the doctors and nurses and care providers can't know exactly what kind of attention to give to who. Every doctor has their own method. If it works for you, stay with them. If not, move on.

So what works for you?
"Hey if you don't take this pill you're going to die?" 
"Hey if you take this pill it should really make you start feeling better and if it doesn't will find something that will work for you?"
Or
"Hey how are you doing? Still alive? We're going to give you these pills let us know if there's any problems?"

Just got to get out there and find what gets you better.